“32 But I want you to be without care. He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord—how he may please the Lord. 33 But he who is married cares about the things of the world—how he may please his wife. 34 There is a difference between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the world—how she may please her husband.”
1 Corinthians 7:32-34
Today, God inspired me to reflect on a topic that is deeply personal, yet often misunderstood—choosing to be single after experiencing the wreckage of a toxic relationship. If that’s your story, I want to begin by telling you this: you are not broken. You are brave. And God sees you.
Somewhere along the way, our culture—and often even our churches—have placed marriage on a pedestal so high that anything else feels like failure. But Scripture paints a different picture. In 1 Corinthians 7, the Apostle Paul doesn’t shame singleness. He honors it. He uplifts it. He says that singleness offers something powerful: an undivided devotion to the Lord.
Let’s be honest. Toxic relationships are spiritually draining. They distort our self-worth, twist our view of love, and sometimes—even worse—they separate us from God.
Some of us have loved someone who manipulated us, lied to us, controlled us, or worse. And in the name of love, we stayed longer than we should have. But friend, God never called you to stay in bondage disguised as commitment.
Paul writes, “I would like you to be free from concern.”
What is that freedom he speaks of?
That’s the kind of peace God wants for you.
Free from emotional torment. Free from codependency. Free from constantly wondering what you did wrong or how to fix someone who doesn’t want to be healed.
When you step out of a toxic relationship and choose singleness, you are not stepping away from love—you are stepping toward healing.
Paul continues: “An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord.”
This isn’t just about being alone. It’s about being available. Available to rediscover who you are in Christ. Available to pour your energy into purpose, not drama. Available to grow into the person you were always meant to be before someone tried to shrink you to fit their dysfunction.
Choosing to be single after heartbreak is not weakness—it’s wisdom. It says, “I refuse to go back to brokenness. I choose peace. I choose God.” And that choice opens doors that toxic love slammed shut.
In singleness, God becomes your safe place.
Your quietness restores your soul.
You stop walking on eggshells and start walking in purpose.
You find out that wholeness doesn’t require a partner—it requires the presence of God.
And let’s not overlook this truth: singleness is not permanent unless you want it to be.
But it is sacred.
It’s not a waiting room for the next relationship—it’s a training ground for wholeness.
You are not “less than” because you’re alone. You’re just being refined for something greater.
So if you’ve walked away from a toxic relationship, don’t rush into something new to numb the pain of the last.
Let God be your rebound.
Let Him show you what love was supposed to feel like all along.
Close the door to toxicity, not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually. Declare, “I am choosing singleness—not because I’m afraid of love, but because I finally understand what real love is. And I will never settle for anything less again.”
There is nothing more attractive to the right person than someone who has learned to love themselves, stand on their own, and put God first. But even if that person never comes, you have already gained the most important relationship of all—your relationship with the Lord.
You are whole. You are healing. You are His.
To God be all the glory, now and forever.
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Father God;
Thank You for being our refuge and our healer.
Today, we lift up every heart that has walked away from a toxic relationship—bruised, but not broken. Remind us that our worth is found in You alone, not in anyone’s approval or presence.
Lord, give us peace in this season of singleness.
Fill the empty spaces with Your love, Your truth, and Your purpose.
Heal the wounds left by false love, and restore the parts of us that were silenced or shattered.
Let us walk boldly, knowing that choosing wholeness over chaos is holy.
Help us keep our eyes on You, and teach us to cherish this time of undivided devotion.
May we grow stronger, wiser, and more rooted in Your will every day.
In Jesus’ name we pray,
Amen!
This message was written by Daniel St.Pierre
